Living with women in kindness | Sh. Muhammad al-Jami’

The Noble Scholar Shaykh Muhammad Āmān Al-Jāmī رحمه الله stated:

‎”It is not from living with the women in kindness that the woman is (living) under the (constant) threat and warning of (being) divorced in every situation.”

‎《 قرة عيون الموحدين / ٣٩》


قال العلامة الإمام الشيخ الدكتور

‏محمد أمان بن علي الجامي رحمه الله:

‏《 ليس من حُسن العشرة

‏مع ⁧ #النساء⁩؛ أن تكون المرأة

‏تحت التهديد و الإنذار

‏بالطلاق في كل مناسبة 》.

‏[ قرة عيون الموحدين (٣٩) ] .

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At-Tibyān 📚 |

There will be no happiness between spouses | Sh. Muqbil رحمه الله

قال العلامة مقبل الوادعي:

السعادة لا تكون بين الزوجين إلا بصبرهما على بعضهما البعض، و بتعاونهما على خير، و تربية أبنائهما والله المستعان.

عناقيد الكرامة ٧٧

Shaykh Muqbil رحمه الله: There will be no happiness between spouses except with their patience upon each other, their cooperation upon good and cultivating their children – and Allah’s aid is sought.

Extreme dowries | Umar Ibn al Khattab رضي الله عنه

Ibn Maajah (1887) narrated that ‘Umar ibn al-Khattaab said:

“Do not go to extremes with regard to the dowries of women, for if that were a sign of honour and dignity in this world or a sign of piety before Allaah, then Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) would have done that before you. But he did not give any of his wives, and none of his daughters were given, more than twelve uqiyah. A man may increase the dowry until he feels resentment against her and says, ‘You cost me everything I own, and caused me a great deal of hardship’.”

Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Ibn Maajah, 1532. 

“Do not go to extremes” means do not exaggerate in increasing the dowry. “A man may increase the dowry until he feels resentment against her” means, until he begins to hate her when he is still paying off the debts incurred because of this mahr because it is too hard for him, or whenever he thinks about the matter.  

From Haashiyat al-Sindi ‘ala Ibn Maajah

Writing the Marriage Contract is not a Condition for the Validity of the Marriage – Shaikh Salih al-Fawzan

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم 
⏩ Writing the Marriage Contract is not a Condition for the Validity of the Marriage – Shaikh Salih al-Fawzan
Question : From the conditions of the marriage contract, is it necessary to have it written [i.e. Writing the contract]?
Answer : “No, writing [the marriage contract] is not from the conditions for the validity of the marriage. If there is the agreement of the Wali (the guardian) and the acceptance of the groom or from their Wakeels [i.e. Trustees], in the presence of two just witnesses, along with the removal of any preventatives from the two spouses, then the contract is valid even if it is not written. Yes”.
Source :

Translated by
Faisal bin Abdul Qaadir bin Hassan
Abu Sulaymaan

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Employment is Not a Condition For Marriage – Shaikh Ahmad an-Najami

Employment is Not a Condition For Marriage – Shaikh Ahmad an-Najami
 darussaafi Thu 16 Rabi Al Awwal 1438AH

Question: The questioner says: I am a young man who wants to propose to a young girl and she is from our tribe. However he father, may Allah preserve him, rejected that with the argument that I do not have employment and I do not have a specific amount of money going into the marriage. What do you advise me? May Allah reward you
Answer: “In reality, the people in this time have become attached to employment. It has become the most important thing to them. Provisions are upon Allah, the Exalted. This is especially so if you have the physical capability [to earn], a yearning for marriage, and your father is hastening to marry you off. That which I see is that it should not prevent you and perhaps you will find employment afterwards or some freelance work by which Allah will provide for you”
Translated by
Faisal Ibn Abdul Qaadir Ibn Hassan
Abu Sulaymaan

Pillars in the Cultivation of the Children Written By Ash Shaykh Abdurrazaq Al Abbad

The following is a translation of

الركائز في تربية الأبناء

Pillars in the Cultivation of the Children

Written By Ash Shaykh Abdurrazaq Al Abbad May Allah preserve him and forgive him.

May Allah Reward Brother Zain Abu Abdul Baree for editing the work and The noble brother Abu Sulayman Faysal for making the cover and formatting it.

Translated by Majid Jawed Al Afghanee



Benefit concerning Islamic polygny | Sh. Fawzaan

Shaykh Saalih al-Fawzaan (may Allaah preserve him) said: 

The sharing that is required has to do with spending the night. So you have to divide your time between them. The same applies to maintenance, accommodation and clothing. It is essential to be fair in these matters, by giving each of them sufficient accommodation, food, drink and clothing. You must also divide your time fairly among your wives. This is the justice that is enjoined by Allaah in the verse (interpretation of the meaning):

“…then marry (other) women of your choice, two or three, or four; but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one …”

[al-Nisa’ 4:3]

al-Muntaqa min Fataawa al-Shaykh al-Fawzaan (5/question no. 384)

Informing spouse of past sin to help stay away from it | Sh. Abdul Ghani Al Umaree

I got married Alhamdullillah but before marriage I used to watch pornography whilst I was addicted to watching it now I fear I will return to that is it permissible for me to inform my wife so that she may help me in not watching it 
Shaykh Abdul Ghani Al Umaree:
If you were to fear Allah how would you return to it, Allah has given you better in Halal and there is no need to inform your wife for indeed Allah has covered you, there is no need to inform her with this
Translated by Majid Jawed Al Afghanee

Kind treatment to ones wife

Kind treatment to ones wife

خيرُكم خيرُكم لأهلِه ، وأنا خيرُكم لأهلي

The best of you is the one who is best to his wife, and I am the best of you to my wives [Saheeh Targheeb no. 1925]

‘Allamah al-Mubaarkfoori rahimahullah said: “That is: his children and his relatives. It was said his wives and relatives” [Tuhfatul-Ahwadhi (10/269)]

Imam al-Munaawi rahimahullah said: “His children and relatives. This is what Ibn Atheer said” [Fayd al-Qadir (3/495)]

However, there is another wording of the same Hadith which states:

خيرُكم خيرُكم للنِّساءِ

The best of you is the best of you to your women

[Saheeh Targheeb no. 1925]

as-San’aani rahimahullah said:

“That is: his wives. It is a specific admonishment for doing good towards the wives in general, except they are more deserving  of good companionship. It is also carried to mean the daughters, sisters, and their like” [Tanweer Sharh Jami as-Sagheer (6/33)]

Shaikh Ibn ul-‘Uthaymeen rahimahullah said that the intent of women in one Hadith is the family as comes in the other Hadith [See: Sharh Riyaadhus-Saliheen (3/569)]

So the Hadith is in regards to the wives and other than them of the family.

And Allah knows best

Faisal Ibn Abdul Qaadir Ibn Hassan
Abu Sulaymaan