Interaction with non-Muslim parents

Interaction with non-Muslim parents

As with everything, there are challenges. Embracing Islam while your parents remain ignorant of the faith is a challenge in it of itself, here is a PDF booklet pertaining to how one should interact with their non-Muslim parents:

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The scholars of the Standing Committee for Issuing Fatwas were asked: 

I have family who are mushrikeen (polytheists) except one sister who is a Muslim. Is it permissible for me to live and eat and drink with them, and if that is permissible so long as it is not at the expense of my religious commitment, then it is permissible for me to tell them frankly that they are kaafirs (disbelievers) who are outside of the religion of Allaah? I have called them to Islam but they are hesitant, and they do not belong to this group or that, although they are closer to shirk (polytheism), and I cannot find anywhere to live except with them.

They replied: 

What you must do is continue to advise them, remind them, keep good company with them, and speak gently to them. If you are wealthy, then spend on them, in the hope that Allaah may open their hearts and show them the light.

Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “But if they (both) strive with you to make you join in worship with Me others that of which you have no knowledge, then obey them not; but behave with them in the world kindly, and follow the path of him who turns to Me in repentance and in obedience”

[Luqmaan 31:15]

Look for various means of conveying the truth to them, such as letters, books and tapes. End quote.

Shaykh ‘Abd al-‘Azeez ibn Baaz, Shaykh ‘Abd al-Razzaaq ‘Afeefi, Shaykh ‘Abd-Allaah ibn Ghadyaan. 

Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah, 12/255, 256

Shaykh Saalih ibn Fawzaan al-Fawzaan (may Allaah preserve him) said:

Allaah has enjoined kindness to parents even if they are kaafirs (disbelievers). He says (interpretation of the meaning):

“And We have enjoined on man (to be dutiful and good) to his parents. His mother bore him in weakness and hardship upon weakness and hardship, and his weaning is in two years give thanks to Me and to your parents. Unto Me is the final destination.

15. But if they (both) strive with you to make you join in worship with Me others that of which you have no knowledge, then obey them not; but behave with them in the world kindly, and follow the path of him who turns to Me in repentance and in obedience”

[Luqmaan 31:14, 15]

So you must treat your secular parents kindly, but with regard to religious matters, you should follow the true religion even if it is different from your parents’ religion, whilst also treating parents kindly in return for their good treatment. So you should treat them kindly and return their favours, even if they are kaafirs (disbelievers). There is no reason why you should not uphold ties with your father and honour him and return his favours, but do not obey him in any matter that involves disobedience towards Allaah, may He be glorified and exalted. End quote.

Al-Muntaqa min Fataawa al-Fawzaan (2/257, question no. 226).

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