Some Imperative Ettiqutes to Adhere to when having Conversations with one Another

*Some Imperative Ettiqutes to Adhere to when having Conversations with one Another*

و قال الحسن البصري :(( إذا جالست فكن على أن تسمع أحرص منك على أن تقول , و تعلم حسن الاستماع كما تتعلم حسن القول , و لا تقطع على أحد حديثه )

Hasan al-Basri said, “When you sit with someone (to have a conversation), be more zealous to listen than to speak, and learn how to listen correctly as you learn how to speak correctly, and *do not cut off anyone in his speech*”

و قال معاذ بن سعد الأعور :(( كنت جالساً عند عطاء بن أبي رباح , فحدّث رجل بحديث , فعرّضَ رجلٌ من القومِ في حديثه , و قال : ما هذه الطباع ؟! , إني لأسمع الحديث من الرجل و أنا أعلم به , فأريه كأني لا أحسن شيئاً ))

Muadh bin Sa’d al- A’war narrated that he was sitting with Ataa’ bin Abee Rabaah, and a person began to narrate a narration. *Then, a man from the people there interrupted his speech*. Then, he (Ataa bin Abee Rabaah) said ‘what kind of behavior is this?! Verily I will listen to a narration from someone while I already know it. So, I’ll show him as if I don’t know anything (i.e. making himself humble)’

أوصي خالد بن يحيى ابنه , فقال : (( يا بُنيَّ , إذا حدَّثكَ جليسُكَ حديثاً فأقبل عليه ,و أصغِ إليه , ولا تقل : قد سمعته , و إن كنت أحفظ منه , فإن ذلك يكسبك المحبة و الميلَ إليك ))

Khaalid bin Yahya advised his son by saying, “O my son, if your companion informs you about a narration, then face him and listen to him, and do not say ‘I heard this already’ although you may be more memorized than him. (This is) for verily that produces for you (and him) love and (him having) an inclination towards you”

و قال ابنُ المقفّع :(( إذا رأيتَ رجلاً يحدث حديثاً قد علمته , أو يخبر خبراً قد سمعته , فلا تشارك فيه , و لا تتعقبه عليه حرصاً على أن يعلم الناس أنك قد علمتهُ , فإن ذلك خفة ٌ و سوء أدب و سخفٌ ))

Ibnul Muqafie said, “If you see a man narrate a narration you already know, or informs about news you already have heard of, then do not give your share to it, and do not follow it up with a comment out of zeal that the people come to know that you have knowledge of it. (You should not do this) for verily that is recklessness and bad manners and absurd”

*Refeference*: ‘The Etiquettes of having Conversations’ by Shaykh Faysal al-Haashidi.

Imam Ibn Baaz was asked regarding a man giving the Athan and another giving the Iqaamah

Imam Ibn Baaz was asked regarding a man giving the Athan and another giving the Iqaamah he said:

Their is no problem in regards to that, but that which is better is that the one who gave the Aathaan give the Iqaamah, as the situation was at the time of the prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم

And it has been reported from him صلى الله عليه و سلم that he said “The one who gave the Athaan should give the Iqaamah” but its chain is weak.

و الله ولي التوفيق


Majid Jawed al Afghanee

Whoever loves for Allāh to open up his heart | Imam Malik

قال الإمام مالك رحمهُ الله :

“مَن أحبّ أن تُفتح له فرجة في قلبه فليكُن

عمله في السر أفضل منه في العلانية.”

[ترتيب المدارك صـ(٦٠/٢)]
Imam Maalik(رحمه الله) said: 
“Whoever loves for Allāh to open up his heart, then let his actions in private (when he is alone) be better than when its done in public.”

Translated By: Abu Aisha Yassin

Abd, ‘Abeed, or adoon aren’t just hurtful words | Musa Millington 

Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullah,

This is not an attack but simply advice and reality. From what is apparent, many brothers of West African heritage in the United States complain about being called ‘Abd or ‘Abeed by some Arab Muslims. Thing is such words are not only racist and offensive but it also harms your relationship with Allah ‘Azza Wa Jall for the following reasons:

  • The Prophet (صلى الله عليه و سلم) said: “And do not say my slave boy or slave girl,” i.e if the person is actually your servant. So firstly, to call a person ‘Abd or ‘Abeed is something prohibited by the Messenger (صلى الله عليه و سلم) hence it is an act of disobedience in addition to being a racist term.
  • That when a person says this it resembles how Allah addresses his servants. Therefore, calling a person ‘Abd or ‘Abeed and not ascribing this slavery, bondage or servitude to Allah and Allah only is from minor Shirk in terms of speech.
  • When a person does so he or she would not be from those who have fully affirmed Tawheed but rather that person’s practice of Tawheed would be deficient and therefore the chance of entering Jannah without accountability and punishment would be cast aside.

My dear brothers and sisters, so we see how even racism could lead to one’s deficiency in Tawheed and our relationship with Allah ‘Azza Wa Jall. Racism affects our Tawheed, our Jannah, our love and our hatred which should only be for the sake of Allah alone. May Allah help us and give all of us guidance.

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