Imam Suyuti rahimahullah said:

Chapter: Asking about that which does not concern him

“From that [the innovations] is for a man to ask his brother: where did you come from? What do you want? And he is solliciting information [to spread/broadcast]

[al-Amr bi ‘Ittiba’ wan-Nahi ‘an Ibtidaa’ pg. 273]

Translated by

Faisal Ibn Abdul Qaadir Ibn Hassan Abu Sulaymaan

On the authority of Usamaah ibn Shareek radiallahu anhu that the Prophet sallahu alayhi wa salam said:
ما كرهتَ أن يراهُ الناسُ فلا تفعلهُ إذا خلوتَ
“Whatever you dislike that people see from you, then do not do it when you are alone”

[Graded Hasan by al-Albani in Saheeh Jami no. 5659]

Imam al-Munaawi rahimahullah said:
أي كنت في خلوة بحيث لا يراك إلا الله تعالى والحفظة وهذا ضابط وميزان
“That is: you are alone such that none can see you except Allah and the Angels who record. This is the principle and the scale [to measure yourself or remind yourself of]”

[Fayd ul-Qadeer Sharh Jami as-Sagheer]

So this Hadith teaches us to remind ourselves not to do in private what we would dislike anyone seeing from us in public. Likewise, that Allah is always observing us as He, the Exalted said:
إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ عَلَيْكُمْ رَقِيباً
Surely, Allah is always watching over you
[4:1]

It was narrated from Anas ibn Maalik (may Allaah be pleased with him) that a man was with the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) when another man passed by and he said: O Messenger of Allaah, I love this man. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said to him: “Have you told him?” He said: No. He said: “Tell him.” So he caught up with him and said: I love you for the sake of Allaah. He said: May the one for Whose sake you love me also love you.

Narrated by Abu Dawood (no. 5125) and classed as saheeh by al-Nawawi in Riyadh al-Saaliheen (183) and classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh Abi Dawood.

عن علي بن أبي طالب رضي الله تعالى عنه، قال، قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه و سلم:
” إِنَّمَا الطَّاعَةُ فِي الْمَعْرُوفِ”
رواه البخاري و مسلم. ‏
Narrated by ‘Ali ibn Abi Talib, may Allah be pleased with him, he said that the Messenger (ﷺ) said:
“Obedience is required in only what is good.”
Reported by all Bukhaari and Muslim

The benefit of a Headache:

A headache is a means of forgiveness and reward.

Abu Said al-Khudri radiallahu anhu narrated that the Prophet sallahu alayhi wa salam said:

صُداعُ المؤمنِ ، أو شوكةٌ يُشاكُها ، أو شيءٌ يُؤذيه ؛ يرفعُه اللهُ بها يومً القيامةٍ درجةً ، ويُكفِّرُ عنه بها ذنوبَه

“The headache that afflicts the believer, or a thorn that pricks him/her, or anything that harms him/her, Allah will raise him/her a degree on the day of resurrection and expiate his/her sins due to it”

[Saheeh Targheeb no. 3434]

Also, not having headaches is a bad sign because the people destined to go the Hell-fire do not have headaches:

Abu Hurairah radiallahu anhu said: The Prophet sallahu alayhi wa salam said:

: فَهل وجَدْتَ هذا الصُّدَاعَ ؟ . قال : وما الصُّدَاعُ ؟ قال : عِرْقٌ يَضْرِبُ على الإنسانِ في رأسِهِ . قال : وما وجَدْتَ هذا قطُّ ! فلمَّا ولَّى قال النبيُّ صلَّى اللهُ عليهِ وسلَّمَ : مَنْ أحبَّ أنْ ينظرَ إلى رجلٍ من أهلِ النارِ ؛ فَلْيَنْظُرْ إلى هذا

“…Have you ever felt a headache? The man said: What is a headache? He sallau alayhi wa salam said: A vein that beats in the head of a person. The man said: No I have not experienced that ever! The Prophet sallahu alahyhi wa salam said: Whoever would like to see a man from the people of the Hell-fire, then look at this man!”

[Reported in Ibn Hibban and graded Hasan Saheeh by al-Albani in Saheeh Mawaarid no. 580]

Having headaches are a sign of the People of Imaan and the People of Jannah.

Hafidh Ibn Rajab rahimahullah said:

وصداع الرأس من علامات أهل الإيمان وأهل الجنة

“…And headaches are from the signs of the People of Imaan and the People of Jannah..”

[Lataaif al-Maa’rif pg. 153]

Then he brings the above Hadith and others.

عَنْ أَبِي الزَّيَّاتِ الْقُشَيْرِيِّ , قَالَ: دَخَلْنَا عَلَى أَبِي الدَّرْدَاءِ نَعُودُهُ , فَدَخَلَ عَلَيْنَا أَعْرَابِيٌّ فَقَالَ: مَا لِأَمِيرِكُمْ؟ وَأَبُو الدَّرْدَاءِ يَوْمَئِذٍ أَمِيرٌ , قُلْنَا هُوَ شَاكٍ قَالَ: وَاللهِ مَا اشْتَكَيْتُ قَطُّ , أَوْ قَالَ: مَا صَدَعْتُ قَطُّ فَقَالَ أَبُو الدَّرْدَاءِ:” أَخْرِجُوهُ عَنِّي لِيَمُتْ بِخَطَايَاهُ , مَا أُحِبُّ أَنَّ لِي بِكُلِّ وَصَبٍ وَصَبْتُهُ حُمْرَ النَّعَمِ , وَإِنَّ وَصَبَ الْمُؤْمِنِ يُكَفِّرُ خَطَايَاهُ

On the authority of Abu Zayyaat al-Qushairi rahimahullah said: “We entered upon Abu Darda radiallahu anhu to visit him, when a Bedouin entered upon him. So he said: Where is your Ameer? And Abu Darda was the ameer then.  So we said: He is complaining of some pain. The man said: I have not complained of anything or he said: I did not experience a headache ever! Abu Darda radiallahu anhu said: Remove him from me, so he dies from his sins. I do not love that for every pain/sickness that I feel that I am given red camels. For verily, the pain/illness of a believer is an expiation for his sins”

[Reported by Bayhaqi in Shuab al-Imaan no. 9436 and the Muhaqiq of the Book Mukhtaar Ahmad Nadwi graded it Jayyid]

May Allah guide us back to the way of the Prophet sallahu alayhi wa salam

Faisal Ibn Abdul Qaadir Ibn Hassan Abu Sulaymaan

HOW TO SIT WHEN EATING -SHAIKH AL-ALBANI

Question: Is there a hadith about the way to sit when eating food?

Answer: “There is. It is to sit erect upon the heels or to raise one foot and lay the other foot flat [and sit on it] taken from his statement sallahu alayhi wa salam:

إنما أنا عبد أكل كما يأكل العبد وأجلس كما يجلس العبد
Verily I am a servant. I eat like how a servant eats and I sit like how a servant sits”
[Graded Saheeh by Al-Albani in Saheeh Jami no. 7]

[Taken from Silsaltul Huda wa-nur no. 184 found here: http://www.alalbany.net/983 ]

Translated by

Faisal ibn Abdul Qaadir ibn Hassan
Abu Sulaymaan

al-Fudayl ibn ‘Iyaad said:

“Whoever limits his speech to be in accordance with his actions will (surely) lessen his speech on that which doesn’t concern him.”

[Kitab Al-Adhkaar, by An-Nawawi]