Our flawed unstanding of success


Only a few years ago, I had a flawed perception as to what the purpose of life was. It was merely something which came about with a unconscious connection to “success”. Now, success back then, to me; success was simply a word which I tied with being wealthy. I thought that success was to wake up to a beautiful view, in a beautiful home, with a beautiful career, with a beautiful bank account. How wrong was I? I was a teenager raised in a society where the concept of “success” was fed to us. We were taught, it was to go to school, get a education, get a good career, and then you work until you die.

After converting to Islam, a lot of my questions were answered, with one of the most important questions being: “What is my purpose?”. A pair of some well known verse in the Qur’an reads: “Blessed is He in Whose Hand is the dominion, and He is Able to do all things. Who has created death and life, that He may test you which of you is best in deed. And He is the All-Mighty, the Oft-Forgiving (67:1-2). I soonly realized that we are all slaves in terms of what we inclined to chase in this life. Not to say there is anything bad about being blessed with wealth and living according to your means, but the flawed perception that success is limited to living good in this world. How about the needy old man in the middle of the village in India who is living with self-content because he is pleased with the decree of his Creator? How about all those who are free from chasing materialism with a primary focus of pleasing their Lord? Is this not the success which we should be more focused on? If we live a wealthy and ‘comfortable’ life and die while our Lord is displeased with us, then what kind of success in this? Can we buy our Lord’s pleasure? Can we buy the Paradise He has prepared for us?

Allah says in the Qur’an: “Verily, those who believe and do righteous good deeds, for them will be Gardens under which rivers flow (Paradise). That is the great success. (85:11). As our Creator says, “that is the great success”. The greatest success is to die upon a condition where your Creator is pleased with you. How many of us have actions in accordance to this. Knowing that life is short and we could depart any second, any day, any week, what have we prepared for the real success?
Allah also says in the Qur’an: “Nay, you prefer the life of this world; Although the Hereafter is better and more lasting. Verily! This is in the former Scriptures, The Scriptures of Ibrahim (Abraham) and Musa (Moses). (87:16-19)

Life is more than just working until you die, and success isn’t merely living well in this world, rather it is to enter the gates of Paradise.

May Allah make us of those who He is pleased with and allow us to enter his Paradise!

Pamphlet series on Islam’s perspective on various topics

Pamphlet series on Islam’s perspective on various topics

– compiled by Faisal Abu Sulayman and edited by Zain Abu Abdulbaree

Introduction to Islam: Introduction to Islam

Who is AllahWho is Allah

Islam’s say about JesusWhat does Islam say about Jesus

Islam and extremism: Islam and extremism

Islam and depression: Islam and depression

Islam and suicide and self harm: Islam and suicide and self harm

Islam and preventing dementiaIslam and preventing dementia

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The story of ‘Eesa (Jesus)

The Story of Jesus the son of Mary in the Quran

In the Name of Allah

Allah says:

35. (Remember) when the wife of ‘Imran said: “O my Lord! I have vowed to You what (the child that) is in my womb to be dedicated for Your services (free from all worldly work; to serve Your Place of worship), so accept this, from me. Verily, You are the All-Hearer, the All-Knowing.”

36. Then when she delivered her [child Maryam (Mary)], she said: “O my Lord! I have delivered a female child,” – and Allah knew better what she delivered, – “And the male is not like the female, and I have named her Maryam (Mary), and I seek refuge with You (Allah) for her and for her offspring from Shaitan (Satan), the outcast.”

37. So her Lord (Allah) accepted her with goodly acceptance. He made her grow in a good manner and put her under the care of Zakariya (Zachariya). Every time he entered Al-Mihrab to (visit) her , he found her supplied with sustenance. He said: “O Maryam (Mary)! From where have you got this?” She said, “This is from Allah.” Verily, Allah provides sustenance to whom He wills, without limit.”

38. At that time Zakariya (Zachariya) invoked his Lord, saying: “O my Lord! Grant me from You, a good offspring. You are indeed the All-Hearer of invocation.”

39. Then the angels called him, while he was standing in prayer in Al-Mihrab (a praying place or a private room), (saying): “Allah gives you glad tidings of Yahya (John), confirming (believing in) the Word from Allah [i.e. the creation of ‘Iesa (Jesus), the Word from Allah), noble, keeping away from sexual relations with women, a Prophet, from among the righteous.”

40. He said: “O my Lord! How can I have a son when I am very old, and my wife is barren?” Allah said: “Thus Allah does what He wills.”

41. He said: “O my Lord! Make a sign for me.” Allah said: “Your sign is that you shall not speak to mankind for three days except with signals. And remember your Lord much (by praising Him again and again), and glorify (Him) in the afternoon and in the morning.”

42. And (remember) when the angels said: “O Maryam! Verily, Allah has chosen you, purified you, and chosen you above the women of the ‘Alamin (mankind and jinns).”

43. O Mary! “Submit yourself with obedience to your Lord (Allah, by worshipping none but Him Alone) and prostrate yourself, and Irka’i (bow down) along with those who bow down.”

44. This is a part of the news of the Ghaib (unseen, i.e. the news of the past nations of which you have no knowledge) which We inspire you with. You were not with them, when they cast lots with their pens as to which of them should be charged with the care of Maryam (Mary); nor were you with them when they disputed.

45. (Remember) when the angels said: “O Maryam (Mary)! Verily, Allah gives you the glad tidings of a Word [ ‘Iesa (Jesus) the son of Maryam (Mary)] from Him, his name will be the Messiah ‘Iesa (Jesus), the son of Maryam (Mary), held in honour in this world and in the Hereafter, and will be one of those who are near to Allah.”

46. “He will speak to the people in the cradle and in manhood, and he will be one of the righteous.”

47. She said: “O my Lord! How shall I have a son when no man has touched me.” He said: “So (it will be) for Allah creates what He wills. When He has decreed something, He says to it only: “Be!” and it is.

48. And He (Allah) will teach him [‘Iesa (Jesus)] the Book and Al-Hikmah (i.e. the Sunnah, the faultless speech of the Prophets, wisdom, etc.), and the Taurat (Torah) and the Injeel (Gospel).

49. And will make him [‘Iesa (Jesus)] a Messenger to the Children of Israel saying: “I have come to you with a sign from your Lord, that I design for you out of clay, as it were, the figure of a bird, and breathe into it, and it becomes a bird by Allah’s Leave; and I heal him who was born blind, and the leper, and I bring the dead to life by Allah’s Leave. And I inform you of what you eat, and what you store in your houses. Surely, therein is a sign for you, if you believe.

50. And I have come confirming that which was before me of the Taurat (Torah), and to make lawful to you part of what was forbidden to you, and I have come to you with a proof from your Lord. So fear Allah and obey me.

51. Truly! Allah is my Lord and your Lord, so worship Him (Alone). This is the Straight Path.

52. Then when ‘Iesa (Jesus) came to know of their disbelief, he said: “Who will be my helpers in Allah’s Cause?” Al-Hawariun (the disciples) said: “We are the helpers of Allah; we believe in Allah, and bear witness that we are Muslims (i.e. we submit to Allah).”

53. Our Lord! We believe in what You have sent down, and we follow the Messenger [‘Iesa (Jesus)]; so write us down among those who bear witness (to the truth i.e. La ilaha ill-Allah – none has the right to be worshipped but Allah).

54. And they (disbelievers) plotted [to kill ‘Iesa (Jesus)], and Allah planned too. And Allah is the Best of the planners.

55. And (remember) when Allah said: “O ‘Iesa (Jesus)! I will take you and raise you to Myself and clear you [of the forged statement that ‘Iesa (Jesus) is Allah’s son] of those who disbelieve, and I will make those who follow you (Monotheists, who worship none but Allah) superior to those who disbelieve till the Day of Resurrection. Then you will return to Me and I will judge between you in the matters in which you used to dispute.”

56. “As to those who disbelieve, I will punish them with a severe torment in this world and in the Hereafter, and they will have no helpers.”

57. And as for those who believe (in the Oneness of Allah) and do righteous good deeds, Allah will pay them their reward in full. And Allah does not like the Zalimun (polytheists and wrong-doers).

58. This is what We recite to you (O Muhammad ) of the Verses and the Wise Reminder (the Qur’an).

59. Verily, the likeness of ‘Iesa (Jesus) before Allah is the likeness of Adam. He created him from dust, then (He) said to him: “Be!” – and he was.

60. (This is) the truth from your Lord, so be not of those who doubt.

61. Then whoever disputes with you concerning him [‘Iesa (Jesus)] after all this knowledge that has come to you, say “Come, let us call our sons and your sons, our women and your women, ourselves and yourselves – then we pray and invoke (sincerely) the Curse of Allah upon those who lie.”

62. Verily! This is the true narrative [about the story of ‘Iesa (Jesus)], and, La ilaha ill-Allah (none has the right to be worshipped but Allah, the One and the Only True God, Who has neither a wife nor a son). And indeed, Allah is the All-Mighty, the All-Wise.

63. And if they turn away (and do not accept these true proofs and evidences), then surely, Allah is All-Aware of those who do mischief.

64. Say (O Muhammad ): “O people of the Scripture (Jews and Christians): Come to a word that is just between us and you, that we worship none but Allah, and that we associate no partners with Him, and that none of us shall take others as lords besides Allah. Then, if they turn away, say: “Bear witness that we are Muslims.”

(Quran Chapter The Family of Imran 3: 35-64)

and Allah says:

2. (This is) a mention of the mercy of your Lord to His slave Zakariya (Zachariah).

3. When he called out his Lord (Allah) a call in secret,

4. Saying: “My Lord! Indeed my bones have grown feeble, and grey hair has spread on my head, And I have never been unblest in my invocation to You, O my Lord!

5. “And Verily! I fear my relatives after me, since my wife is barren. So give me from Yourself an heir,

6. “Who shall inherit me, and inherit (also) the posterity of Ya’qub (Jacob) (inheritance of the religious knowledge and Prophethood, not the wealth, etc.). And make him, my Lord, one with whom You are Well-pleased!”.

7. Allah said “O Zakariya ! Verily, We give you the glad tidings of a son, His name will be Yahya (John). We have given that name to none before him.”

8. He said: “My Lord! How can I have a son, when my wife is barren, and I have reached the extreme old age.”

9. He said: “So it will be. Your Lord says; It is easy for Me. Certainly I have created you before, when you had been nothing!”

10. [Zakariya (Zachariah)] said: “My Lord! Appoint for me a sign.” He said: “Your sign is that you shall not speak unto mankind for three nights, though having no bodily defect.”

11. Then he came out to his people from Al-Mihrab (a praying place or a private room,), he told them by signs to glorify Allah’s Praises in the morning and in the afternoon.

12. It was said to his son: “O Yahya (John)! Hold fast the Scripture [the Taurat (Torah)].” And We gave him wisdom while yet a child.

13. And made him sympathetic to men as a mercy or a grant from Us, and pure from sins [i.e. Yahya (John)] and he was righteous,

14. And dutiful towards his parents, and he was neither an arrogant nor disobedient to (Allah or to his parents).

15. And peace be on him the day he was born, the day he dies, and the day he will be raised up to life again!

16. And mention in the Book (the Qur’an, O Muhammad , the story of) Maryam (Mary), when she withdrew in seclusion from her family to a place facing east.

17. She placed a screen to screen herself from them; then We sent to her Our Ruh [angel Jibrael (Gabriel)], and he appeared before her in the form of a man in all respects.

18. She said: “Verily! I seek refuge with the Most Beneficent (Allah) from you, if you do fear Allah.”

19. (The angel) said: “I am only a Messenger from your Lord, (to announce) to you the gift of a righteous son.”

20. She said: “How can I have a son, when no man has touched me, nor am I unchaste?”

21. He said: “So it will be, your Lord said: ‘That is easy for Me (Allah): And We wish to appoint him as a sign to mankind and a mercy from Us (Allah), and it is a matter already decreed, (by Allah).’ ”

22. So she conceived him, and she withdrew with him to a far place (i.e. Bethlehem valley about 4-6 miles from Jerusalem).

23. And the pains of childbirth drove her to the trunk of a date-palm. She said: “Would that I had died before this, and had been forgotten and out of sight!”

24. Then [baby Jesus or Jibrael (Gabriel)] cried unto her from below her, saying: “Grieve not! Your Lord has provided a water stream under you;

25. “And shake the trunk of date-palm towards you, it will let fall fresh ripe-dates upon you.”

26. “So eat and drink and be glad, and if you see any human being, say: ‘Verily! I have vowed a fast unto the Most Beneficent (Allah) so I shall not speak to any human being this day.'”

27. Then she brought him (the baby) to her people, carrying him. They said: “O Mary! Indeed you have brought a thing Fariya (an unheard mighty thing).

28. “O sister (the like) of Harun (Aaron) [not the brother of Musa (Moses), but he was another pious man at the time of Maryam (Mary)]! Your father was not a man who used to commit adultery, nor your mother was an unchaste woman.”

29. Then she pointed to him. They said: “How can we talk to one who is a child in the cradle?”

30. “He [‘Iesa (Jesus)] said: Verily! I am a slave of Allah, He has given me the Scripture and made me a Prophet;”

31. “And He has made me blessed wheresoever I be, and has enjoined on me Salat (prayer), and Zakat, as long as I live.”

32. “And dutiful to my mother, and made me not arrogant, unblessed.

33. “And peace be upon me the day I was born, and the day I die, and the day I shall be raised alive!”

34. Such is ‘Iesa (Jesus), son of Maryam (Mary). it is a statement of truth, about which they doubt or dispute.

35. It befits not the Majesty of Allah that He should beget a son. Glorified and Exalted be He above all that they associate with Him. When He decrees a thing, He only says to it, “Be!” and it is.

36. [‘Iesa (Jesus) said]: “And verily Allah is my Lord and your Lord. So worship Him (Alone). That is the Straight Path.

37. Then the sects differed [i.e. the Christians about ‘Iesa (Jesus)], so woe unto the disbelievers [those who gave false witness by saying that ‘Iesa (Jesus) is the son of Allah] from the meeting of a great Day (i.e. the Day of Resurrection, when they will be thrown in the blazing Fire).

38. How clearly will they (polytheists and disbelievers in the Oneness of Allah) see and hear, the Day when they will appear before Us! But the Zalimun (polytheists and wrong-doers) today are in plain error.

39. And warn them (O Muhammad ) of the Day of grief and regrets, when the case has been decided, while (now) they are in a state of carelessness, and they believe not.

(Quran Chapter Maryam 19:2-39)

and Allah said:

82. Verily, you will find the strongest among men in enmity to the believers (Muslims) the Jews and those who are Al-Mushrikun, and you will find the nearest in love to the believers (Muslims) those who say: “We are Christians.” That is because amongst them are priests and monks, and they are not proud.

83. And when they (who call themselves Christians) listen to what has been sent down to the Messenger (Muhammad ), you see their eyes overflowing with tears because of the truth they have recognised. They say: “Our Lord! We believe; so write us down among the witnesses.

84. “And why should we not believe in Allah and in that which has come to us of the truth (Islamic Monotheism)? And we wish that our Lord will admit us (in Paradise on the Day of Resurrection) along with the righteous people (Prophet Muhammad and his Companions).”

85. So because of what they said, Allah rewarded them Gardens under which rivers flow (in Paradise), they will abide therein forever. Such is the reward of good-doers.

86. But those who disbelieved and belied Our Ayat (proofs, evidences, verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.), they shall be the dwellers of the (Hell) Fire.

(Quran 5:82-86)

Narrated Mu`adh bin Jabal:
The Prophet (salallahu alayhi wa sallam) said, “O Mu`adh! Do you know what Allah’s Right upon His slaves is?” I said, “Allah and His Apostle know best.” The Prophet said, “To worship Him (Allah) Alone and to join none in worship with Him (Allah). Do you know what their right upon Him is?” I replied, “Allah and His Apostle know best.” The Prophet said, “Not to punish them (if they do so). (Sahih Bukahri)

Ibn Abbas (ra) narrated:

When Allah’s Messenger (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) sent Muadh (ra) to Yemen, he said, You will come upon the People of the Book (Christians and Jews), Let the first act be to call them to Testify the- There is nothing worthy of Worship in truth but Allah.
(sahih Bukhari)

“Who ever testifies that there is nothing worthy of worship in truth (no God) except Allah Alone, Who is without (peer or) partner, and that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger, and that Jesus is the slave of Allah, His Messenger, and His Word which He bestowed in Maryam and a spirit (created) from Him (Allah), and that Paradise and Hell-fire are realities, Allah will admit him into Paradise, whatever his deeds might be.” (Sahih Bukhari)

Running away from thought of death

Simply an opinion and my personal opinion at that. I strongly believe that people run away from the thought of aging for various reasons, but the most significant of them all is the acknowledgement of death. Maybe it is the concept of venturing into the unknown, maybe it is the idea that ‘I am not living righteous now, but one day I will’, ahh where ever the fear of death derives from we will all face it. It could be during our sleep tonight, it could be tomorrow evening, death doesn’t discriminate at all, nor does it procrastinate in it’s appointments.

It is a reality we all have to come to realize, we hear about death, but do we truly understand it? Do we understand that when we die, khalaas, finito, there is no more repentance? Do we understand that all the play and amusement of this worldly-life is finished and we have our seat belts strapped in travelling even closer to meet our Creator? Do we comprehend the fact that once we die, we are one step closer to being resurrected on the Day of Judgement only to answer for our actions to the Lord of Existence?

Sometimes it takes a wake up call in order to realize the reality death is, sometimes it takes a near death experience, but how would we recognize if we experienced our last wake up call?

Allah says in the Qur’an: “يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا اتَّقُوا اللَّهَ حَقَّ تُقَاتِهِ وَلَا تَمُوتُنَّ إِلَّا وَأَنْتُمْ مُسْلِمُونَ”
“O you who believe! Fear Allah (by doing all that He has ordered and by abstaining from all that He has forbidden) as He should be feared. [Obey Him, be thankful to Him, and remember Him always], and die not except in a state of Islam (as Muslims) with complete submission to Allah.”

May Allah grant us understanding and guide us all to what pleases Him, اللهم آمين

Throwing Harm in the Street (Littering)

Throwing Harm in the Street (Littering)

The Prohibition of Littering

Ibn ul-’Uthaymeen rahimahullah:

“the conclusion is that everything that harms should be removed from the street. You will be rewarded for that deed. Therefore, if removing harm the street is an act of charity,then throwing harm in the street is a sin. Amongst those who are sinful are those who throw their garbage in the middle of the sin…” [Sharh Riyaadul-Saliheen (1/290) no. 248]

Shaikh Abdul-Muhsin al-’Abbad was asked:

Question: What is the ruling on throwing harm in the street?

Answer: “No doubt it is sinful for him to throw harm instead of removing it from the street. This is similar to one who urinates in the street. However his statement sallahu alayhi wa salam: “Beware of the two sources of curses” is intended to mean the one who relieves himself in the street or the shade of the people which they use to shade” [Sharh Sunan Abi Dawood no. 594]

The danger of Throwing Harm in the Street

سَعْدُ بْنُ أَبِي وَقَّاصٍ، فَقَالَ: ” إِيَّاكُمْ وَالْمَلَاعِنَ، أَنْ يَقْذِفَ أَحَدُكُمْ أَذَاهُ فِي الطَّرِيقِ، فَلَا يَمُرُّ أَحَدٌ فِي الطَّرِيقِ إِلَّا قَالَ: لَعَنَ اللَّهُ مَنْ فَعَلَ هَذَا

Sa’d ibn Abi Waqqas said: “Beware of action that will incur cursing: that a person throw his garbage in the street. So no one passes the street except he says: may Allah curse the one who did this” [al-Musaawi ul-Akhlaaq of Kharaaiti no. 800 with the a Saheeh chain ]

Reward of Removing Something Harmful From the Street

The Prophet sallahu alayhi wa salam said:

وتميط الأذى عن الطريق صدقة

Removing harmful things from the way is charity

[Agreed Upon]

And he said:

وإماطة الأذى عن الطريق صدقة أو قال : ” صلاة

And removing something harmful from the street is charity or prayer

[Reported by al-Bazzar (1/438) and al-Haythami said in al-Majma’: reported by Abu Ya’la, Bazzar, and Tabarani in al-Kabir and Sagheer with something similar. He increased in his narration with: “All of that is compensated for by two rakats of Duha. The narrators of Abu Ya’la are the narrators of the Saheeh]

The Ruling on Removing Something Harmful From the Street

Shaikh Abdul-Muhsin al-’Abbad hafidhuhallah was asked:

Question: Removing something harmful from the street, is it obligatory or recommended?

Answer: “That which I see is that it is obligatory because the people will be harmed by it” [Sharh Sunan Abi Dawood no. 594]

What to remove from the street

Shaikh Ibn ul-‘Uthaymeen rahimahullah said:

“If you find in the street a rock or glass or thorns or other than that, then remove it, then that is from Imaan. Even cars which are parked in the middle of the street and make it narrow for the people. So they harm the people in the street and removing that is from Imaan” [Sharh Riyaadh us-Saliheen (1/736)]

What if you cannot remove it?

Shaikh Ibn ul-’Uthaymeen said: “so like this it is necessary to remove the harm from the street. If he is not able to, like there is a big rock or piles of sand or the likes, then let him convey it to the Municipality, for example, because they are responsible for this. So let him convey it to them so that he can be from those who help in righteousness and piety” [Sharh Riyaadh-us-Saliheen (1/736)]

Removing Something Harmful From the Street in a Non-Muslim Land

Question: The one who is in the lands of disbelief, does he remove something harmful from the street?

Answer: “Yes. He removes something harmful from the street even if he is the lands of disbelief” [Sharh Sunan Abi Dawood no. 594]

The One who Throws Harm in the Streets is Deficient in Imaan

Question: “Is it allowed to say that the one who throws something harmful in the street is deficient in Imaan?

Answer: “Yes, not doubt he is deficient in Iman because this is abuse and harm to the people” [Sharh Sunan Abi Dawood no. 594]

Translated by

Faisal Ibn Abdul Qaadir Ibn Hassan

Abu Sulaymaan

A Comment on the Events in France: Shaikh Abdul-Muhsin al-‘Abbad

A Comment on the Events in France

Shaikh Abdul-Muhsin al-‘Abbad hafidhuhallah said:

“…from someone whether from the Muslims or the Disbelievers, especially one who is affiliated with Islam, no doubt it is evil and a calamity. My advice to everyone whom Allah facilitated to avoid fitnah and falling into prohibited affairs, [is that] if he is able to advise the one whom he can so that he does not fall into fitnah, and he knows this person to have evil and danger, than advising him is something desirable. As for what has occurred in France and in other than it, and the affair is not specific to France but to France and other than it from the Muslim lands and the lands of disbelief. In each of them occur these bombings by people whom there is no good in them, especially them ascribing to Islam. Verily this is an evil and a calamity. They ascribe it to Islam and Islam is free from this evil behavior and ugly action”.

Translated by

Faisal Ibn Abdul Qaadir Ibn Hassan

Abu Sulaymaan

Women in Islam:

Women in Islam:

The schoar, Shaykh Muhammad ibn ‘Abdul Wahhaab al-Wasaabee said:

“Allah wants purity and chastity for His servants. Allah wants purity and chastity for the believing men and the believing women, and the Muslim men and the Muslim women.He wants chastity, modesty, shyness, belief and Religion, while those who follow their own desires want the believers to deviate from their path, those who follow their desires want you to turn totally away from your Religion and the Truth. So will you not fear Allah? Oh slaves of Allah?

And it is also upon the Muslim women to fear Allah! By Allah, all these deceptive calls directed toward the Muslim women, by Allah, if a woman answers them then she harms no one except herself and she will come to regret it at a time when her regret is of no use. The enemies of Islam only desire to have the Muslim women for their own pleasure, so they bring forth the call for women’s emancipation. What is this emancipation? Rather, you should say the woman’s torture! They are nothing but liars. They are deceivers! They are not advisers, they are deceivers! What is this women’s emancipation? Are the women being punished by us?!? The woman in Islam is supported and honored. A woman in Islam is a leader, a leader in her house and a caretaker.”


My Home, My Path by Umm Mujaahid Khadijah bint Lacina – Pages 59-60

Description from the publisher: 

The stereotype of the Muslim woman is that of an oppressed, ignorant, repressed individual, confined to her house, shackled by her religion. This is blatantly untrue – but what, then, is the role of the Muslim woman in her family and society as a whole? The answer is found in “My Home, My Path”, a compilation of writings and rulings chosen to highlight and explain the extremely important role and exalted position of the Muslim woman. There are treatises by such scholars as Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-Uthaymeen, Shaykh Saalih Fawzaan, Shaykh Abdul Aziz ibn Baaz, and Shaykh Muhammad al-Imaam, discussing the role of the woman in her family, household, and the larger society, as well as her position in Islam as a leader, role model, teacher and caller, among other things. There are rulings regarding marriage, children, beliefs, and more, all carefully chosen to be pertinent to the Muslim woman living in the West or coming from a Western background. An entire section is devoted to the obligations of the women to her Lord, her husband, her children, and more, listed and explained with the proofs. The appendixes include valuable information on the importance and benefits of seeking knowledge, a list of some of the female students in the center of Shaykh Muqbil ibn Haadee al-Waadi’ee, practical advice on balancing seeking knowledge with other obligations, rulings regarding free mixing between the sexes, and a concise, useful listing of foundations for a successful marriage.

At a time when there are so many mixed messages and astray calls aimed at the Muslim woman, it is imperative that she arm herself with true knowledge of her position, role, rights and responsibilities in order to strengthen herself and strive to do that which is pleasing to Allah. Although this book is aimed at Muslim women, men can benefit as well from the information contained in it, including an explanation of the pillars of Islam and Eemaan. In particular, Shaykh Muqbil’s khutbah concerning marriage, and Shaykh Muhammad al-Imaam’s khutbah on the rectification of the household, are invaluable; and the men’s role as the guardian and caretaker of his family puts him in the position of needing to know what he should be encouraging and assisting his wives and daughters to achieve in order to attain success in this life and the next. In addition, there are rulings and information concerning raising children, dealing with spouses, parents, neighbors and others, and general information which is pertinent to the Believing man as well as the Believing woman.

Shaykh Saalih Fawzaan, may Allah preserve him says,

“So how can one come and say that the woman is oppressed in the Muslim society, except that it is apparent that this speaker is ignorant, and does not look at the woman in the society of those who disbelieve in Islam and how she lives now, and compare her place with the position of the Muslim woman, to understand the difference between the two, and to comprehend the state of ignorance,, until he does not pronounce the speech which he speaks, and which is heard and repeated without any chain of narration, and without any comprehension at all…”

“My Home, My Path” relies on the source texts of Islam, the Qur’an and the Sunnah (way/ example) of the Messenger of Allah, may Allah’s praise and salutations be upon him, according to the understanding and practice of the pious predecessors. It also relies upon the words of the people of knowledge to assist us in clearly understanding that which is meant in the texts, in order that we have a correct understanding of the information instead of one based on opinion and desire. It is the second in a series of books aimed at the Muslim woman of today, the first of which was “My Hijaab, My Path”. It is an invaluable resource for anyone striving to live Islam.

As well as Shaykh ‘Abdul ‘Azeez Ibn Baaz (May Allah have mercy on him)

This small article was a response to a particular question concerning the position and status of Muslim women, and has been taken from his Majmoo’ Fataawaa wa Maqaalaat Mutanawwi’ah (3/348-350).

The status of the Muslim woman in Islam is a very noble and lofty one, and her effect is very great in the life of every Muslim. Indeed, the Muslim woman is the initial teacher in the building of a righteous society, providing she follows the guidance from the Book of Allah and the Sunnah of His Prophet (peace be upon him). Since adherence to the Qur’an and the Sunnah distances every Muslim male or female from being misguided in any matter. The misguidance that the various nations suffer from, the path of Allah the Most Perfect, the Most High, and from what His Prophets and Messengers, may Allah’s peace and prayers be upon them all, came with.

The Prophet (peace be upon him) said:

“I am leaving behind two matters, you will not go astray as long as you cling to them both, the Book of Allah and my Sunnah (way/ example).” [2]

The great importance of the Muslim woman’s role – whether as wife, sister or daughter – and the rights that are due to her and the obligations due from her have been explained in the noble Qur’an, and further details of this have been explained in the purified Sunnah.

The secret of her importance lies in the tremendous burden and responsibility that is placed upon her, and the difficulties that she has to shoulder. In terms of responsibilities, some of which not even a man can bear. This is why from the most important obligations upon a person is to show gratitude to the mother, and kindness and good companionship with her. And in this matter, she is to be given precedence over and above the father.

Allah the Most High, says:

“And We have enjoined upon man to be dutiful and good to his parents. His mother bore him in weakness upon weakness and hardship upon hardship, and his weaning is in two years. Show gratitude and thanks to Me and to your parents. Unto Me is the final destination.”

[Al-Qur’an 31:14]

Allah the Most High, said:

“And We have enjoined upon man to be dutiful and kind to his parents. His mother bears him with hardship, and she brings him forth with hardship. And the bearing and the weaning of him is thirty months.”

[Al-Qur’an 41:15]

A man came to Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) said:

O Messenger of Allah! Who from amongst mankind warrants the best companionship from me.

He replied:

“Your mother.”

The man asked: Then who?

So he replied:

“Your mother.”

The man asked: Then who?

So the Prophet replied again:

“Your mother.”

The man then asked: Then who?

So he replied:

“Then your father.” [3]

So this necessitates that the mother is given three times the likes of kindness and good treatment than the father.

As regards the wife, then her effect in making the soul tranquil and serene, has been clearly shown in the noble ayah (verse), in His – the Most High’s – saying:

“And from amongst His Signs is this: That He created for you wives from amongst yourselves, so that you may find serenity and tranquility in them, And He has put between you love and compassion. Indeed, in this are signs for those who reflect.”

[Al-Qur’an 30:21]

Al-Haafidh Ibn Katheer (d.774H) – rahimahullaah – said, whilst explaining the terms mawaddah and rahmah which occur in the above verse:

“Al-mawaddah means love and affection, and ar-rahmah means compassion and pity, since a man takes the hand of a woman either due to his love for her, or because of compassion and pity for her; by giving to her a child from himself…” [4]

And the unique stance that the Prophet’s (peace be upon him) wife Khadeejah – May Allah be pleased with her – took, had a huge effect in calming and reassuring Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him), when the angel Gabriel – peace be upon him – first came to him in the cave of Hiraa. The Prophet (peace be upon him) returned to Khadeejah with the first Revelation and with his heart trembling and beating severely, saying to her,”Cover me! Cover me!” So she covered him until his fear was over, after which he told Khadeejah – May Allah be pleased with her  – everything that had happened, and said: “I fear that something may happen to me.” She said to him: “Never! By Allah! Allah will never disgrace you. You keep good ties with relations, you help the poor and the destitute, you serve your guests generously and assist those who have been affected with calamities.” [5]

And do not forget about ‘Aaishah – May Allah be pleased with her  – and her immense contribution. Even the eminent Sahabah (Companions) used to take knowledge of Hadeeth from her, and many of the Sahaabiyaat (female Companions) learnt the various rulings pertaining to women’s issues from her.

(The scholar mentions): And I have no doubt that my mother (may Allah shower His mercy upon her) had a tremendous effect upon me, and has a great excellence over me, in encouraging me to study, and she assisted me in it. May Allah greatly increase her reward and reward her with the best of rewards for what she did for me.

And there is no doubt also, that the house in which there is kindness, gentleness, love and care, with the correct Islamic tarbiyah (education and cultivation) will greatly affect the man. So he will become, if Allah wills, successful in his affairs and in any matter whether it be seeking knowledge, trading, earning a living, etc.

So it is Allah alone that I ask to grant us all success and to guide us all to that which He loves and is pleased with. And may the prayers and peace of Allah be upon our Prophet Muhammad, and upon his Family, his Companions and his followers.


Al-Istiqaamah , Issue No.1 – Dhul-Hijjah 1416H/May 1996


[1] He is the exemplary Scholar: Abu ‘Abdullaah, ‘Abdul-’Azeez bin ‘Abdullaah bin Baaz. He was born in the city of Riyaadh (Sa’udi Arabiah) on the 12th Dhul-Hijjah in the year 1330H. He began seeking knowledge by first memorising the Quran before reaching the age of maturity. He then went on to study the various Islamic sciences, such as ‘Aqeedah (Beliefs), Fiqh (Jurisprudence), Usoolul-Fiqh (Fundamentals of Jurisprudence),Hadith (Prophetic Narrations), Faraa’id (Laws of Inheritance), Nahw (Grammar) and Sarf (Morphology) – even though the Shaykh became permanently blind at the age of seventeen. He studied these sciences under some of the most prominent Scholars of Riyaadh and Makkah of his time, including Shaykh Muhammad ibn ‘Abdul-Lateef ibn Abdur-Rahmaan ibn Hasan and also the former grand-muftee and noble scholar, Shaykh Muhammad ibn Ibraaheem – whom he studied under for ten years. He is eighty-six years old, mild, generous and forbearing in nature, whilst firm, yet wise, when speaking the truth. He is a zaahid (one who abstains) with respect to this world and is one of the foremost Scholars of Ahlul-Sunnah wal-Jamaa’at in this present age. The noble Shaykh has – by Allah’s grace – devoted his whole life to the cause of Islam and its people, authoring many books and booklets, teaching and serving the masses, along with being very active in the field of da’wah. May Allah protect our noble father and Shaykh, and may He continue to benefit the Ummah with him.

[2] Hasan: Related by Malik in al-Muwatta (2/899) and al-Hakim (1/93), from Ibn ‘Abbas radiallaahu ‘anhu. It was authenticated by al-Albaani in as-Saheehah (no.1871).

[3] Related by al-Bukhari (no. 5971) and Muslim (7/2), from Abu Hurayrah radiallaahu ‘anhu.

[4] Tafseer Qur’aanul-’Adheem (3/439) of Ibn Katheer.

[5] Related by al-Bukhari (1/22) and Muslim (1/139), from the lengthy narration of ‘Aaishah radiallaahu ‘anha.

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