Some Imperative Ettiqutes to Adhere to when having Conversations with one Another

*Some Imperative Ettiqutes to Adhere to when having Conversations with one Another*

و قال الحسن البصري :(( إذا جالست فكن على أن تسمع أحرص منك على أن تقول , و تعلم حسن الاستماع كما تتعلم حسن القول , و لا تقطع على أحد حديثه )

Hasan al-Basri said, “When you sit with someone (to have a conversation), be more zealous to listen than to speak, and learn how to listen correctly as you learn how to speak correctly, and *do not cut off anyone in his speech*”

و قال معاذ بن سعد الأعور :(( كنت جالساً عند عطاء بن أبي رباح , فحدّث رجل بحديث , فعرّضَ رجلٌ من القومِ في حديثه , و قال : ما هذه الطباع ؟! , إني لأسمع الحديث من الرجل و أنا أعلم به , فأريه كأني لا أحسن شيئاً ))

Muadh bin Sa’d al- A’war narrated that he was sitting with Ataa’ bin Abee Rabaah, and a person began to narrate a narration. *Then, a man from the people there interrupted his speech*. Then, he (Ataa bin Abee Rabaah) said ‘what kind of behavior is this?! Verily I will listen to a narration from someone while I already know it. So, I’ll show him as if I don’t know anything (i.e. making himself humble)’

أوصي خالد بن يحيى ابنه , فقال : (( يا بُنيَّ , إذا حدَّثكَ جليسُكَ حديثاً فأقبل عليه ,و أصغِ إليه , ولا تقل : قد سمعته , و إن كنت أحفظ منه , فإن ذلك يكسبك المحبة و الميلَ إليك ))

Khaalid bin Yahya advised his son by saying, “O my son, if your companion informs you about a narration, then face him and listen to him, and do not say ‘I heard this already’ although you may be more memorized than him. (This is) for verily that produces for you (and him) love and (him having) an inclination towards you”

و قال ابنُ المقفّع :(( إذا رأيتَ رجلاً يحدث حديثاً قد علمته , أو يخبر خبراً قد سمعته , فلا تشارك فيه , و لا تتعقبه عليه حرصاً على أن يعلم الناس أنك قد علمتهُ , فإن ذلك خفة ٌ و سوء أدب و سخفٌ ))

Ibnul Muqafie said, “If you see a man narrate a narration you already know, or informs about news you already have heard of, then do not give your share to it, and do not follow it up with a comment out of zeal that the people come to know that you have knowledge of it. (You should not do this) for verily that is recklessness and bad manners and absurd”

*Refeference*: ‘The Etiquettes of having Conversations’ by Shaykh Faysal al-Haashidi.

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