What a muslimah can reveal in front of other women | Standing Committee

The Standing Committee for Academic Research and Issuing Fatwas issued a statement on this matter, which reads as follows: 

Praise be to Allaah, the Lord of the Worlds, and blessings and peace be upon our Prophet Muhammad, and upon all his family and companions.

The believing women at the beginning of Islam were extremely pure, chaste, and modest, which was the blessing of belief in Allaah and His Messenger and following the Qur’aan and Sunnah. Women at that time used to wear concealing garments, and it is not known that they used to uncover themselves when they met one another or when they met their mahrams. The women of this ummah followed this mode of behaviour – praise be to Allaah – generation after generation until recently, when corruption and impropriety entered the way women dress and behave for many reasons, which we do not have room to discuss here.

Because of the large number of questions that have been sent to the Standing Committee for Academic Research and Issuing Fatwas about women looking at women, and what women should wear, the Committee is telling all Muslim women that women are obliged to have an attitude of modesty, which the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) described as being part of faith and one of the branches of faith. One aspect of the modesty which is enjoined by Islam and by custom is that women should cover themselves, be modest and adopt an attitude and conduct that will keep her far away from falling into fitnah (temptation) and doubtful situations.

The Qur’aan clearly indicates that a woman should not show to other women anything other than that which she shows to her mahrams, that which she customarily uncovers in her own home and when doing housework, as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“…and not to reveal their adornment except to their husbands, or their fathers, or their husband’s fathers, or their sons, or their husband’s sons, or their brothers or their brother’s sons, or their sister’s sons, or their (Muslim) women (i.e. their sisters in Islam)…”

[al-Noor 24:31]

If this is the text of the Qur’aan and this is what is indicated by the Sunnah, then this is what the wives of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and the womenfolk of the Sahaabah used to do, and the women of the ummah who followed them in truth until the present day. What was usually uncovered in front of the people mentioned in this verse is what women usually uncover when they are at home and when doing housework, which is difficult to avoid, such as uncovering the head, hands, neck and feet.

With regard to going to extremes in uncovering, there is no evidence in the Qur’aan and Sunnah that this is permissible. This is also the way that leads to a woman tempting or being tempted by other women, which happens among them. It also sets a bad example to other women, as well as being an imitation of kaafir women, prostitutes and immoral women in the way they dress. It was proven that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever imitates a people is one of them.” Narrated by Imam Ahmad and Abu Dawood. In Saheeh Muslim (2077) it is narrated from ‘Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Amr that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) saw him wearing two garments dyed with safflower, and he said, “These are from the clothing of the kuffaar – do not wear them.”

It is also narrated in Saheeh Muslim (2128) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “There are two types of the people of Hell whom I have not seen: people with whips like the tails of cattle, with which they beat the people, and women who are clothed yet naked, misguided and leading others astray, with their heads like the humps of camels, leaning to one side. They will not enter Paradise or even smell its fragrance, although its fragrance may be detected from such and such a distance.”

The meaning of the phrase “clothed yet naked” is that the woman is wearing clothes that do not cover her, so she is clothed, but in fact she is naked, such as when she wears a thin dress that shows the colour of her skin, or a dress that shows the outline of her body, or a short dress that does not cover part of her limbs.

So what Muslim women have to do is to adhere to the guidance followed by the Mothers of the Believers (the Prophet’s wives) and the womenfolk of the Sahaabah (may Allaah be pleased with them), and the women of this ummah who followed them in truth, and strive to cover themselves and be modest. This is farthest removed from the causes of fitnah and will protect them from the things that lead to provocation of desires and falling into immorality.

Muslim women must also beware of falling into that which Allaah and His Messenger have forbidden of imitating kaafir women and prostitutes, in obedience to Allaah and His Messenger, and in the hope of attaining the reward of Allaah, and for fear of His punishment.

Every Muslim must also fear Allaah with regard to the women who are under his care, and not let them wear things that Allaah and His Messenger have forbidden, such as provocative clothes, or clothes that are revealing or tempting. He should remember that he is a shepherd and will be responsible for his flock on the Day of Resurrection.

We ask Allaah to set the Muslims’ affairs straight, and to guide us all to the straight path, for He is All-Hearing, Ever-Near and Ever Responsive. May Allaah send blessings and peace upon our Prophet Muhammad and upon his family and companions.

Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah, 17/290 

It also says in Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah (17/297): 

What a woman is permitted to uncover in front of her children is that which is customarily uncovered, such as the face, hands, forearms, feet and so on.

And Allaah knows best.

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Kind treatment to ones wife

Kind treatment to ones wife

خيرُكم خيرُكم لأهلِه ، وأنا خيرُكم لأهلي

The best of you is the one who is best to his wife, and I am the best of you to my wives [Saheeh Targheeb no. 1925]

‘Allamah al-Mubaarkfoori rahimahullah said: “That is: his children and his relatives. It was said his wives and relatives” [Tuhfatul-Ahwadhi (10/269)]

Imam al-Munaawi rahimahullah said: “His children and relatives. This is what Ibn Atheer said” [Fayd al-Qadir (3/495)]

However, there is another wording of the same Hadith which states:

خيرُكم خيرُكم للنِّساءِ

The best of you is the best of you to your women

[Saheeh Targheeb no. 1925]

as-San’aani rahimahullah said:

“That is: his wives. It is a specific admonishment for doing good towards the wives in general, except they are more deserving  of good companionship. It is also carried to mean the daughters, sisters, and their like” [Tanweer Sharh Jami as-Sagheer (6/33)]

Shaikh Ibn ul-‘Uthaymeen rahimahullah said that the intent of women in one Hadith is the family as comes in the other Hadith [See: Sharh Riyaadhus-Saliheen (3/569)]

So the Hadith is in regards to the wives and other than them of the family.

And Allah knows best

Faisal Ibn Abdul Qaadir Ibn Hassan
Abu Sulaymaan

Honest thoughts on dating | Br. Samuel Pierre

MY HONEST THOUGHTS ON DATE | Br. Samuel Pierre 

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I tell people romance is nonsense and they immediately say “brother, you’re not married are you?”

I’m sure you think that’s funny. I do too, but for different reasons. You see, I’m an anthropologist. We study humanity. Primarily through culture and religion. With this we become aware of the origins of words and their original meaning in the context of the culture and wider civilization in which the word and it’s associated concept originated and developed. We ask people all the time, why do you think the opposite of romance is “not caring” rather than loving? And we ask the people why is it in the modern world when people say “relationship” we automatically think “romance”. It’s no coincidence that when people update their status to “in a relationship”, people automatically assume you’re in a haraam relationship.

Romance originated in Greco-Roman culture. This is the context. This type of relationship is rooted in their understanding of the relationship between men and women(and men and men, and women and women). Indeed, the boyfriend/girlfriend relationship is an inevitable consequence of their beliefs. Indeed the Modern Western Civilization is simply the revival of the Greco-Roman Civilization.

But what is romance?

Romance is utilizing words and gestures designed to appeal to the ego of another, in order to ingratiate that person to yourself, creating an (unhealthy) emotional attachment, so that this person will be more amenable to fulfilling your whims and desires. It’s essentially a manipulative relationship, where one person attempts to use another selfishly, by controlling them emotionally, and eventually psychologically, so that their goals for self-worship, control, and security are accomplished through another person. And many are deceived because romance mimics love in many respects. But we all know that nothing can substitute the real thing.

You think I’m lying or intellectualizing something simple? Well, you’re free to research on your own.

Romance:

1. Talk or behave amorously, without serious intentions.

2. Tell exaggerated lies

3. Tell an untruth; pretend with intent to deceive
4. To attempt to gain the affection of.
5. A kind of excitement.
6. To try to persuade, as with flattery or incentives.
7. To court the favor of or woo.
8. A mysterious, exciting, sentimental, or nostalgic quality.
9. Idealized love.
10. To indulge in fanciful stories or daydreams.

I can’t even make this stuff up.

Key word in Romance is Rom(an). Roman civilization is basically Greek.

 

MY HONEST THOUGHTS ON DATING:

Because what most people actually want in the boyfriend/girlfriend relationship is exactly what people want in their marriage, I think dating, even if I wasn’t religious, is a pure waste of time. The phrase: “If he truly loves you, he will marry you”, makes so much sense to me…

It just seems that men get so much more out of the dating relationship than women, simply because of the way patriarchal societies condition(read:brainwash) men and women. Men basically get a wife without the commitment(a wifey). And women get to hope against all hope that one day their love decides to marry her(it rarely happens)…I don’t see the appeal in it for women.

And if you think that I am somehow relinquishing some fictitious “man-card” or violating some “man-law”, then you and I are not on the same page. I am Muslim. We do not believe in entering into relationships that are not of mutual benefit. Use things, not people.

Never mind the cognitive dissonance of “how you gonna know if someone is right for you unless you ‘get to know them’?; Every successful marriage began with “I knew the moment I saw her”, so that excuse is out.

People brainwash themselves in order justify and satisfy their own desires sometimes. We all know what “getting to know you” actually means; We all know that you can get to know someone without dating them before marriage; We all know that we can never actually know everything about anyone; And we all know that the missing ingredient in failed marriages is not desire, but genuine friendship.

Written by Samuel Pierre

Islam and misogyny

Islam and misogyny

Misogyny means: “Dislike of, contempt for, or ingrained prejudice against women” [http://www.oxforddictionaries.com/definition/english/misogyny].

Unfortunately, many people claim Islam is a misogynistic religion and that Muslim women are oppressed. However, this claim is false and unjustified. Islam honors women and gives them their status.

Prior to Islam, the polytheists of the Arab disliked girls and were sadden by their birth. Allah says:

وَإِذَا بُشِّرَ أَحَدُهُمْ بِالْأُنْثَى ظَلَّ وَجْهُهُ مُسْوَدًّا وَهُوَ كَظِيمٌ
يَتَوَارَى مِنَ الْقَوْمِ مِنْ سُوءِ مَا بُشِّرَ بِهِ أَيُمْسِكُهُ عَلَى هُونٍ أَمْ يَدُسُّهُ فِي التُّرَابِ أَلَا سَاءَ مَا يَحْكُمُونَ

And when the news of (the birth of) a female (child) is brought to any of them, his face becomes dark, and he is filled with inward grief! He hides himself from the people because of the evil of that whereof he has been informed. Shall he keep her with dishonour or bury her in the earth? Certainly, evil is their decision [16:58-59]

Imam al-Alusi rahimahullah said:

“The verse is clear in the dispraise of being sad if given the glad tidings of a girl because it was narrated that it was the action of the disbelievers. As for the real believer, then he is pleased with what Allah has allotted for him and the decree of Allah is better than the judgement of a person himself…verily Allah informed you of their [the polytheist’s] actions to avoid it and prohibit it” [Tafseer al-Alusi (10/206)].

Quite the contrary, the Prophet (ﷺ) said:

لاَ يَفْرَكْ مُؤْمِنٌ مُؤْمِنَةً إِنْ كَرِهَ مِنْهَا خُلُقًا رَضِيَ مِنْهَا آخَرَ

A believing man should not hate a believing woman; if he dislikes one of her characteristics, he will be pleased with another [Muslim no.1468]

Shaikh Ibn ul-‘Uthaymeen (may Allah have mercy upon him) said:

“…That is: his wife, his sister, and his mother. However the intent here is his wife…“[Sharh Riyaadhus-Saliheen (6/244)].

So Islam does not believe women are a source of sadness or shame. Islam believes women are the twin-sisters of men.

The Prophet (ﷺ) said:

نَعَمْ إِنَّمَا النِّسَاءُ شَقَائِقُ الرِّجَالِ

Yes. Woman are counterpart of men.

[Saheeh Sunan Abi Dawood no. 236]

Imam al-Khattabi (may Allah have mercy upon him) said:

“[In this Hadith is proof] that the audience [of Ahaadith] if reported with the wording men is [also] addressing women. Except in the places that are specified [for women] by the evidences” [‘Awn al-Ma’bood (1/275)].

Imam as-San’aani rahimahullah said commenting on the Hadith:

لعن الله الرجلة من النساء

Allah cursed mannish women

“Mannish women who imitate men in their appearance and in their speech and the likes of that. As for [regarding] knowledge and opinion, then it is praiseworthy [i.e. that women be like men]. I say: it is not resemblance, rather it is acting upon what they have been ordered to do. For verily the women are the counterparts of men. They were ordered with knowledge and action. The manner of teaching and learning is not specific to men“[Tanweer Sharh Jami’ as-Sagheer (9/48)].

Some people may say that Islam favours men over women and they point to the verse in the Quran that states:

الرجال قوامون على النساء بما فضل الله بعضهم على بعض وبما أنفقوا من أموالهم

Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means [4:34]

According to Imam Shawkaani (may Allah have mercy upon him), this verse means:

“Verily they [the men] only deserve this virtue due to Allah favoring men over women because of what He has favored them with in terms of being caliphates, sultans, rulers, ameers, soldiers, and other than that of affairs” [Fathul-Qadir (1/694)].

It does not mean all men are better than women, but that men have been favored over women from this angle.

Shaikh Bin Baz (may Allah have mercy upon him) said:

“…It does not necessitate from this [verse] that every man is better than every woman. Verily this preference is in general. As for detail, then a woman can be better than a man. This is a real, well-known affair. However, in general the male gender was favored over the female gender and this is known through the legislation, intellect, and natural disposition. Through the knowledge of reality and experience. However, how many women are better than a man due to her knowledge, religion, steadfastness, and insight. By looking at the attributes of the female Companions, Tabi’een, and Scholars of this Ummah of the women, you will know there are good women who are better then many men“[Noor ‘ala Darb (26/106)].

And as mentioned earlier, women are the counterparts of men. However, there are certain positions or fields that men are given preference and this is a virtue given by Allah. It does not mean women are less than men or that they are not as good as men or despised by men.

Some may point then to this verse:

فَإِنْ لَمْ يَكُونَا رَجُلَيْنِ فَرَجُلٌ وَامْرَأَتَانِ مِمَّنْ تَرْضَوْنَ مِنَ الشُّهَدَاءِ أَنْ تَضِلَّ إِحْدَاهُمَا فَتُذَكِّرَ إِحْدَاهُمَا الْأُخْرَى

And get two witnesses out of your own men. And if there are not two men (available), then a man and two women, such as you agree for witnesses, so that if one of them (two women) errs, the other can remind her [2:282]

Saying that this means women are less than men and why is the testimony of two men equal to one man? Allah explained in the above verse that if one of them errs the other can remind them.

Imam Ibn Qayyim (may Allah have mercy upon him) said that his teacher Shaikhul-Islaam Ibn Taymiyyah (may Allah have mercy upon him) said:

“In this verse is evidence that the testimony of two women in place of the testimony of one man is only for one woman to remind the other if she errs. This is only in [the affairs] that have error in them in customarily. That is forgetfulness and inaccuracy. So in this meaning, the Prophet (ﷺ) said the Hadith:

أما نقصان عقلهن فشهادة امرأتين بشهادة رجل

As for you deficiency in intellect, then it is that the testimony of two women is equal to the testimony to one man [صحيح مسلم]

So he clarified that she has half the testimony because of the deficiency in intellect [i.e. memory and accuracy] not in religion. So it is known by that that the trustworthiness of a women is in the same position as the trustworthiness of a man. And that her intellect can be more deficient than his [i.e. in this angle]. In the matters of testimony in which error is not feared customarily, then her testimony is not half of that of a man’s. Two testimonies [in this situation] is not accepted. The places when a single testimony is accepted is in things which she saw, or touched with her hand, or heard with her ear [which do not] depend [solely] on the intellect. Like regarding birth, or the voice of the child when being born, or in menstruation, or the defects underneath the [woman’s] clothing. For verily the likes of these affairs are not forgotten customarily” [at-Turuq al-Hukumiyyah (1/221-222)].

The Hadith cited by Shaikhul-Islaam Ibn Taymiyyah (may Allah have mercy upon him) above is also another common contention in the opinion of some people. It is when the Prophet (ﷺ) said:

وَمَا رَأَيْتُ مِنْ نَاقِصَاتِ عَقْلٍ وَدِينٍ أَغْلَبَ لِذِي لُبٍّ مِنْكُنَّ

I have never seen anyone lacking in discernment and religion more overwhelming to a man of wisdom than you [Muslim no. 79]

Shaikh Bin Baz (may Allah have mercy upon him) commented on this Hadith saying:

“…It does not necessitate from this Hadith that the deficiency in her intellect is in everything and the deficiency in her religion is in everything. Verily the Prophet (ﷺ) clarified that the deficiency in her intellect is from the angle that inaccuracy occurs in testimony and her deficiency in religion is from the angle that she leaves off the prayer and fasting in the situation of menstruation and post-natal bleeding. It does not necessitate also that she is less than a man in everything and that a man is better than her in everything. Yes, so it is not necessary for a believer to accuse her [the woman] of being deficient in everything and have deficiency in all her religion. Verily it is a specific deficiency in regards to accuracy in testimony and the likes. So it is necessary to have fairness with her [woman] and carry the speech of the Prophet upon the best of possible meanings. And Allah Knows best” [Fatwa Noor ‘ala Darb (29/101-102].

So this clarifies that Islam does not believe women to have inferior minds than men in general. It is only in relation to her memory and accuracy in certain affairs of testimony. Otherwise, there are many instances of women in Islam who were Scholars and teachers, like Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her), the wife of the Prophet (ﷺ) and Fatimah bint al-Mundhir (may Allah have mercy on her).

So we can conclude from what has been mentioned above that Islam is not a misogynistic religion. Far from that, Islam is a religion of justice and honor.

And Allah Knows Best

Faisal Ibn Abdul Qaadir Ibn Hassan
Abu Sulaymaan

Is it permissible that I ask that the Book of Allah; the Noble Quran is my Mahr (dowry)? | Sh. bin Baz

The following question was put forward by a Muslim woman to al-‘Allaamah Ibn Baz –may Allaah have mercy on him-:

Q: Is it permissible that I ask that the Book of Allah; the Noble Quran is my Mahr (dowry)? My intent is to meet (the reward) of this in the Hereafter. Being that, the reciting of a (single) letter is worth ten rewards, (I mean) I desire to accumulate (the reward) for the Hereafter, not in this world, and also for the ease and simplicity in my Mahr (dowry)?

A: What is legislated is that the dowry is of wealth; as Allaah has said:

(Thus has Allâh ordained for you. All others are lawful, provided) that you seek (them in marriage) with Mahr (bridal money given by the husband to his wife at the time of marriage) from your property… (An-Nisa:24)

And the prophet – salallahu alahi wa salam – when there came to him the woman who gave herself to him, he did not accept and he desired to marry her to one of his companions. He (salallahu alahi wa salam) said (to him) “seek even a ring from iron”.

Therefore, what is legislated is that there is wealth, even if it is little. And if the husband is incapable and does not find any wealth (to give as a dowry), it is permissible in the correct view, to marry him (to her) for some verses (of the Quran) that he teaches the woman, or something from the Chapters (of the Quran), which he teaches the woman, and there is no harm in this.

And for this reason, the Prophet –salallahu alahi wa salam- married off the woman who gave herself to him, to a companion that he teaches her from the Quran such and such, and such and such.

However, if there is wealth which is available, then the wealth takes precedence even if it is little. And the teaching (of the Quran) afterwards, if she wishes that her husband teaches her, then let him teach her what he is able and this is from good companionship. That he (the husband) teaches her and cooperates with her upon goodness, this is something else.

Allaah says: And accompany them honorably… (An-Nisa: 19)

(And He says): And they (women) have rights (over their husbands as regards living expenses, etc.) similar (to those of their husbands) over them (as regards obedience and respect, etc.) to what is reasonable…
(Al-Baqarah:228)

Thus if he accompanies her in a companionship which comprises of teaching her the Quran, teaching her the Sunnah, teaching her the Rulings of Allaah, then this is much good.

However, this is not sufficient in the Mahr (dowry), except when there is a need and an inability to (give) money.

Source: http://www.binbaz.org.sa/node/12431

In summary, we benefit from this that what is legislated in the Mahr (dowry) is that it is of wealth. However, if the one seeking marriage is incapable of giving wealth and the woman is satisfied and content to make her Mahr (dowry) that she is taught some verses or chapters of the Quran, then there is no harm in this. As for him merely memorizing a portion of the Quran, then this alone is not sufficient in being a Mahr (dowry). Allaah is Most High and knows best.

Abu ‘Atiyah Mahmood al-Kanadi

The Ruling on Women Wearing White Khimar or White Jilbab – Shaikh Abdul-Muhsin al-‘Abbad

Question: What is the ruling on a woman wearing a white khimar or white jilbab?

Answer: “If it is something specific for women or made for women or the women wear it, then there is no harm in that. However, her wearing clothing that does not resemble the clothing of men, no doubt that is more deserving”.

[Sharh Sunan Ibn Majah no. 292]

Translated by

Faisal Ibn Abdul Qaadir Ibn Hassan

Abu Sulaymaan